What if the thoughts that feel the most familiar, the most convincing, and the most true… are actually old echoes from a version of you that no longer exists?
We tend to assume that our thoughts are accurate reflections of reality. But in those moments when you suddenly feel unworthy, unprepared, rejected, or “not enough,” your mind is rarely describing the present; it’s replaying the past.
In this episode of The Happy Neurotics Podcast, we explore why the brain so often lies to us, how childhood messages get woven into adult perceptions, and why your inner narrator can sound authoritative even when it’s completely wrong. Together, we unpack the subtle ways old beliefs shape your choices, pull you into self-doubt, and quietly sabotage opportunities — and, more importantly, how to catch the distortion before it takes over.
You’ll learn how to:
Recognize when your mind is repeating old programming rather than reality
Catch the early signs of distorted thinking using emotional and physical cues
Use simple tools like relabeling, inquiry, and brain-dumping to gain clarity
Shift from self-sabotage to action by imagining and embodying a more empowered version of yourself
Break cycles of negative self-talk and create new patterns grounded in worthiness
Reframe fear-based beliefs and cultivate new ones that support growth and confidence
Why this matters
Because the thoughts you don’t question become the reality you live in.
When an old belief like, I’m not good enough, people won’t take me seriously, I’ll only embarrass myself, slips into the driver’s seat, it doesn’t just change how you think. It changes how you act, the risks you take, the opportunities you reach for, and the ones you walk away from. Most of the time, you don’t even realise that an outdated narrative is actually making decisions on your behalf.
These thoughts aren’t proof that you’re flawed or failing. We all have them! They’re signals, reminders that a younger part of you is still interpreting the present through the lens of the past. When you learn to slow down and gently separate perception from truth, you reclaim something essential: the ability to choose your next step instead of being ruled by old programming.
By approaching your thoughts with curiosity instead of automatic obedience, you can:
Interrupt long-standing patterns of self-doubt and self-sabotage
Reduce the emotional intensity of “I’m not enough” moments
Respond from adulthood instead of reacting from childhood
Create new outcomes by choosing new interpretations
Strengthen the part of you that knows you are capable, worthy, and ready
Rather than silencing your thoughts, this work is all about understanding them.
Because when you do, you start shaping your reality from truth rather than fear.
Timestamps
00:00 — Why the brain lies to us
02:30 — Childhood programming and distorted perception
05:00 — Danielle’s driving test story and shifting beliefs
08:40 — How to spot internal narratives through emotional cues
11:00 — Relabeling, reattributing, and treating thoughts “like snakes”
14:00 — Inquiry questions to break the spell of a limiting belief
17:00 — Todd’s book story and acting “as if”
20:40 — Creating a new reality by choosing new beliefs
22:40 — Final reflections and encouragement
💬 Your turn to reflect
What belief have you been acting on lately that may not actually be true?
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Resources & Mentions
📕“Recovering from Emotional Trauma” by Dr. Todd
🎙Tim Fletcher, trauma educator and podcast host
Inquiry exercises inspired by cognitive reframing approaches
Relabeling & reattribution methods from mindfulness-based practices
